You Are Not Your Eating Disorder

By Sydney Keller, Mental Health Worker at Monte Nido Eating Disorder Center of Boston

I have come across handfuls of clients that feel the only way they have ever identified themselves is through their eating disorder. The number on the scale, the size of their jeans, the amount of times they have been in treatment, the list goes on and on. When I have asked clients in group settings to talk about themselves, I have been shocked when their opening statement is, “I’m Mary and I’m anorexic” or “I’m Linda and I’ve had bulimia for the past ten years.”

Your onhealthy fosamax eating disorder gives you nothing. It takes and takes and will never stop taking. It robs you of your health, your happiness, your relationships with family and friends, and it will continue to take from you. Your eating disorder is not and will not ever be your friend. You are not defined by your eating disorder and your eating disorder will never be your true identity.

On your journey of recovery, your eating disorder identity will begin to diminish and your true identity will resurface. In many instances, clients feel they do not know who they are without their eating disorder and feel they need to relearn the facets that include their healthy soul and self. This is your time to explore. Recognize your role among your family and friends, rediscover your passions, re-establish your self-worth, and redefine your abilities and attributes.

Pat yourself on the back for all you have done and all you will continue to do on your journey of recovery. Now will the real you please stand up?